Family Drama

So, My family, just found out that my nephew, lets call him “B”, wife, lets call her “E”, is pregnant, but she is 3 months.

B and E couldn’t just call my parents and let them know, that E is pregnant. They found out by Instagram. I’m am beyond furious and they expect for me to go to B’s brother’s birthday party. Oh hell no! 🤬


Last edited on 2020-07-04 at 17:36:00 by 🌹CW Rescue Center🌹

oh the joys of family, that's no fun at all. Hopefully you can get it sorted out.

Sorry, Cherry, that your family found out that way.

It is a shame that is the world we live in anymore. Real people take back seat to social media....    :(

@Midnight Outlaw- honestly I don’t know that this will be rectified, keeping my fingers crossed.

@EVermore- I know, right? I could not believe it. B couldn’t get on the phone and say E is pregnant, we don’t know the gender yet. How hard could that be?

Jeez even a text would have been more appropriate ugh some people are just plain dumb. Sorry your on the receiving end in this case.

@Bonnie- Thank you! It hurt my Mom and Dad’s feelings!

Well, since I actually have been on the side of having a baby I'll say I personally didn't really tell my parents either when I got pregnant because I wanted to make sure we made it into the safe zone of pregnancy where miscarriage was less likely.(Which is 12 weeks if I remember right, so that would be about about 3 months) I never posted to social media though until after I told all my relatives. I do think I remember telling some of my close friends though early on. So, maybe they planned to tell your parents but hadn't gotten around to it just yet by the time your parents saw that post? They definitely should of told family first though. That is a terrible way to find out. I just try and look at all sides and try to put myself in the other person's shoes and talk to the person about what I'm upset about verses being angry at them first. I didn't even let my mom in my delivery room, everyone except my husband had to come after the baby was born. It's really sad the boundaries you have to make because of all sort of people trying to control things for you when you're pregnant and it can be really stressful, so quite honestly, I removed myself quite a bit from family functions until after I had my baby because your stress level is the most important thing when pregnant because stress can easily make you miscarry.

Cryptic cat couldn’t put it better. I’ve never had a kid and never want one but I’ve definitely heard of the whole, 3 month period thing of miscarriage.
But like, why be angry? Your nephew and his wife is bringing a life into the world. No one should resent the baby. Bring it into the world with happiness and positivity

Last edited on 2020-07-05 at 12:58:07 by Siren

I agree with Siren. Ultimately, they're having a baby, and that's a happy thing!
Also, I'm not sure why you don't want to go to B's brother's party. The brother doesn't seem to have been involved and your anger shouldn't be taken out on him just because he's related to someone you're angry at.

Last edited on 2020-07-05 at 16:01:00 by Raptor

People's family dynamics are different. It isn't fair to judge someone for feeling a certain way.

Maybe CW's family is close so finding out about something as exciting as a pregnancy from the internet versus being told personally could be really hurtful and make someone feel angry because they are hurt.

@CW, my door is open if you need to vent. Judgement free.

Babies/pregnancies are not always a blessing. I live a situation where such a thing has happened. No, it isn't the baby's fault but it is a very stressful thing because it exists none the less and the bull poop that came with "the pregnancy".

@The Cryptic Cat, Siren, and Raptor- I see what you are saying, I calmed down a bit.
Honestly I just wish that they told my parents, because that is B’s grandparents and will go to B’s Brother’s Birthday Party.

I had know idea about the dangers of being pregnant.

I’m glad you understand. I mean, if the baby wasn’t wanted, there’s always the option of abortion. I’ve never been against that option. I understand not knowing about it for some time can be stressful. I had a coworker who got pregnant and didn’t want me talking about it, especially to my boss until the 3 month period was up. I just hope the news hasn’t torn apart the family at all, because to some, babies can bring families together