Even adults get bullied.

So I'm heading out to go to the gym earlier this morning and my neighbor comes out and asks why I was going to the gym when I already look like I "had an eating disorder" and that instead of going to the gym I should, "eat a cheeseburger."

Funny, even as a 24 year old, people still feel the need to be complete jerks and bullies.

Obviously I didn't take it to heart and shrugged it off, but the fact that a 50+ year old felt the need to disrespect someone else is pretty shocking.

meh.

So how are y'all doing? :)

Ugh, is this your creepy neighbor, too? Either way, yuck.

I work in a bakery, but it always somehow surprises me how many customers therefore feel like it's appropriate to comment on my weight. Mostly it's "positive", or I think they mean it to be, of the "I can't believe you stay so thin, working here" way, but... sometimes it comes across as really skeezy. I've had issues with disordered eating, and having people (strangers!) comment on my weight more days than not can be really uncomfortable.

But it's clear some people never grow a sense of decency or tact, no matter how long they've been around.

I'm glad you were able to brush it off, but I'm sorry he felt the need to be rude and invasive in the first place.

Nope, this is the OTHER neighbor. I swear, I'm surrounded by jerks.

I don't car if your big, tiny, purple, or blue. Commenting on someones overall apparence in a negative way is NEVER okay.

Story of my life. My whole life of growing up people have told me I look too skinny and that I need to eat more.. Gaining weight was a hell of a struggle for me ;-; Even if people say that stuff to me now, I still get kind of upset about it... especially because I HAVE gained weight and I'm at a weight that I am happy with.

Sorry to hear your neighbour was being inconsiderate D:

Yep, that's how it was for me too, Siren. And now, I'm trying to bulk up as my ultimate goal is to compete in a fitness competition by the end of the year. People just need to mind their own business DX

People... I can't even.

My brother does have multiple eating disorders and is FtM trans. At the time he was seeing a psychiatrist, he had just had his feeding tubes taken out and he still basically looked like a skeleton. What did the psychiatrist say to him?

"I'm going to refer to you as Lisa, because what I see is a girl."

and

"You're not the skinniest person in the world..."

REALLY? You're going to tell someone who has recently almost DIED because of an eating disorder that? We could have sued... too bad nobody we got in touch with wanted to handle that case.

I never get bullied from my weight, I always get it from an intelligence stand point. People always think I'm stupid, like, I've been TOLD that I'm stupid to my face. My boss loves to remind me on a regular basis @_@

people need to learn when to keep their trap shut. x__X

Ugh, you are surrounded by jerks! How awful.

Agreed; commenting on another person's appearance is generally uncool, and insulting someone's weight (and what they choose to do; going to the gym, eating whatever food they want, etc) is not all right.

Vos, I'm so sorry for your brother. That's extremely horrible. I hope he's doing better, now.

I hate it when people feel the need to bully others. I'm sorry Gaia!!!!! D:

Basically, it's self-esteem. They aren't confident enough in themselves so they put others down to make themselves feel better.

I got it all the time when I was younger, been bullied all my life, and still get it even though I am 25, and am a Junior in college. :(

At least once a month, I get a mean comment about my weight (which I used to obese, but have lost over 150+ lbs. in the past five years, and now weigh only 185 lbs.), or how I seem to be like a guy just because I am super strong (um, I work with horses, my chickens, and workout a lot), or about how I'm NOT pretty. *rolls eyes*



If I wasn't pretty, would I always be attracting guys? Not dating anybody, but that's cool. I am very popular with the baseball team. ;) And if I wasn't confident, would I be able to hang out with the softball team all the time? Those girls are the most confident young ladies I have ever seen; which they are like me.

As for the rude people; I either ignore them, give them my look, or politely ask them to mind their own beeswax. Ignoring the rude person I found is my best option, unless they are dumb enough to interrupt me while I'm studying, such as taking my ear phones out of my ears while I have a train of thought. That annoys the heck out of me. :/

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They say that with age comes wisdom. But sometimes age comes alone. Your neighbour seems to be an example of this.

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I'm so sorry to hear that Gaia! That's awful and it really bothers me that some people think they can go around saying whatever they wish. I completely agree with Feathered Gold on the whole self-esteem part. I'm sorry to hear Gaia that your neighbor was so disrespectful to you, and I hope that it will never happen again.

FG- First of all, way to go! It sounds like you've been working hard and you are gorgeous!!!

Honestly, I'm used to people talking about my weight. It wasn't until I hit age 20 that I weighed over 100lbs. When I entered high school, I was in the mid 80's. But I was a competitive swimmer and horseback rider. Not to mention I ate like a horse. But just remained itty bitty. Just how my body is.

As I've gotten into my 20's, my weight is gained a lot more easily. But I am still pretty small. I'm only 108ish right now. But I still love going to the gym 4-5 days a week. I'm not trying to lose weight, but moreso gain muscle. And I've done a great job at it too.

People just don't can't accept what they don't understand. It's sad, really. But I'm used to it. However, what my neighbor said was the first time anyone has said anything to me since I reached my 20's.

Shocked, yes!
Feelings hurt? Nahh.
Gaia is a big girl. :)

I'm sorry there are people like your neighbor still in this world. It's amazing what people think it's acceptable to say to your face. I've always had the flip problem of being a "big" girl. My favorite thing people would say was,"You have such a pretty face. It's a shame about the rest of you." And these were people who thought they were complimenting me. People feel the need to pick at other's to make themselves feel better. They're actually the ones with the issue.

You're all beautiful - inside, outside, any & all sizes!

That's awful :( Even if you didn't take it to heart just think of the other people out there that your neighbor is probably harassing that can't take it like you can :/

I was just recently confronted by a "jerk" the day they released me from the hospital with my baby. I put quotes because I'd like to call her something else >_>

Thanks for eating my post EV.

My cousin took me to Walmart to get my pain killers (c sections hurt, y'all!). The pharmacy was closed for an hour so we instead decided to go shop around until they opened. While going down the frozen section to get a pizza for dinner the baby was in her carseat, inside the basket, and an older woman (maybe 45/50+?) stood in my way STARING at the baby with her freaking mouth gaping open. I was slightly concerned as she was just staring at Emma, not saying or doing anything. Of course this tiny little baby had never been in a carseat, so she was wiggly and making little kitten noises.
So she eventually walked all the way down to the opposite end of the aisle and attempted to continue shopping.

THEN

THEN SHE HAS THE NERVE.

Sorry this still makes me very angry D:

BUT THIS FREAKING LADY HAS THE NERVE TO START YELLING AT ME FROM DOWN THE AISLE.

"You're baby is UPSET! She NEEDS your attention! How can you be such a negligent mother?! PICK UP YOUR BABY!"

I literally just stared for a minute before I registered what was actually happening. I mean I've heard of people like this, but I had never encountered them before. The kind that have an issue with something and then run a good distance away before doing the "sancti-mommy" act. e_e

My cousin doesn't take bull from anyone so she kindly bit this lady's head off and I'm pretty sure if I hadn't started to walk away my cousin probably would have had this lady in tears lol Anyway I ended the whole thing with a "mind your own business" and the lady slammed a freezer door shut before yelling "GOD THESE PEOPLE" and taking off. Didn't see her again but we were so upset we just left the store.

You'd think this person would have noticed I was bent over like a cripple obviously in pain and incapable of holding the baby and walking at the same time. My cousin was getting things and putting them in the cart for me so she was a little occupied as well. Don't know why I'm justifying the situation to y'all but anyway, moral of the story: Leave people alone. You don't know what their life is like and you don't know how your words and actions are going to impact them and their situation.