What am I supposed to do? [Rant]

So, I guess as a starters to just get this all easily figured out, I'm the youngest of four, and the second youngest (my brother), well, he's basically my best friend. It's always been my oldest brother and my sister were really close, then me and my second oldest brother (aka the second youngest) have been super close. As he grew up I guess I sorta naturally expected him to move out and ya know, fall in love. But I never really acknowledged it you know? Or I guess it's just natural to me now, having my two oldest siblings moved out and married. I guess I should've known being alone and away from my best friend like that would hurt eventually; I mean, all the girlfriends he has had I've threatened to kill (yes, I'm that kind of a sister... and I suppose I'll admit it was annoying being a third wheel x) ). 
But uh- today he was going on about how he's getting a new job, and then he's going to move out if state (my oldest brother lives out of state with his wife, so I know for a fact that if he moves out of state I will only get to see him maybe once a year). At first my natural reaction was, "Oh well that's cool" but then I guess it actually hit- like, my brother and best friend... I'm never gonna see him again...? So to be honest I just stood there staring at him before I managed to regain my senses and told him, "Oh, that's cool." 
But to be honest I am partially dying inside. I asked him when he would be planning to leave; he said a year tops. I know he's been wanting to get out on his own and all, but I'm going to a private school next year, and for the rest of my schooling years, and having him gone possibly for good? I just- well, I don't want him to go. But I can't do anything about that....

Aww, honey, it'll be okay. *hugs*

I'm afraid that I'll probably never fully realize your situation (as I'm the oldest of my siblings), but I can offer moral support and advice, especially as I know what it is to live far away from family and other loved ones. Make a pact with him to stay in touch. Call each other as much as possible. If either of you are into any kind of video game even at all, try and play that game over consoles/computers at least once a month. Stay friends. I'll be praying for you.

I'm the oldest of my siblings, but my younger sister (13 months younger than me) is my best friend. Honestly the two of us can have complete conversations without saying a word. I have 3 other biological siblings that I love and would do anything to protect them, but we aren't as close.

She moved to Spain in early Sept. 2017 and I haven't seen her (in person) since that day. We also have only been able to talk on the phone twice (it is very expensive to talk to people living on the other side of the planet). 

My advice would be:
-If you are that close; you'll most likely see him again. With all the technology available you'll be able to talk & skype & text as often as you want. Also you can visit or he can visit. Whenever you do get the chance to visit him make your time worthwhile. 
-Prepare yourself for certain days to hurt more than others. Having my sister absent for Christmas was horrible, she is the epitome of Christmas spirit and the driving force behind most of our family traditions. It was worse that I had imagined it would be (she had a great time in Spain lolz). I also had a very difficult time with her birthday (I happened to be with the rest of my family (I live in a different state than my family) that weekend and they were all talking about her constantly, it was pretty hard). 
-As hard as it is, I know, I've been there lolz, try to remember all the good things this move means for your brother and try to be supportive where you can. If your brother is determined to move out you don't want to drive a wedge in your relationship by resisting the upcoming changes.  

and lastly I hope everything works out the best possible way for you and your brother. If you ever want to talk feel free to PM me. 

Last edited on 2018-05-04 at 20:07:07 by insomniaglet

i definitely know how you feel about having people leaving, everyone in the house is leaving for a fun overseas adventure for the next 4ish months and im gonna be stuck here studying pretty much on my own for aaaaages :( but if its something they (both my housemates/friends and your brother) really want then we just kind of have to suck it up and be happy for them, and while i really want to be mad at them i just cant because theyre all so excited to travel and i dont really want to hinder their happiness, yknow??

I'm the middle child and my older brother is going to be graduating from college soon, but don't dispair! You can always text and call him every day. Just because your brother is moving out of the house and adulting doesn't mean you two can't be close or that he'll disappear forever from your life! You can always visit him and he can always visit you. Hope this helps ♥